You might’ve heard of Shonda Rhimes and her book Year of Yes. I’ve decided January 2017 is going to be my month of NO. No disrespect meant to Ms. Rhimes, but I have to stop saying yes. I say yes far too much. I love saying yes. I say yes even when I know it’s better to say no. I say yes because I don’t want to let people down. I say yes because I want to help. I say yes because I want to feel like a good wife, friend, or family member. I say yes so much, I “yes” myself to the bottom of my to do list. It’s unhealthy.
So January, I’m not going to say yes. To anything. “Can you help me with…?” Nope. “Could I just come over and…?” No. “Would you like to…?” No thank you. Selfish? Yep.
Don’t get me wrong. I love helping. I love serving. I love doing things with and for my friends and family, but I have a tendency to do these things to the point where I lose myself.
There’s that analogy of the oxygen mask in the plane – you have to put on your mask before you put on your child’s mask because you’ll need to breathe in order to help your child. Right now? I’m not breathing. I’m gasping for air while shoving the mask on other people. It’s just not sustainable.
So January? That’s a big NOPE. See me in February.